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Happy July lovelies! I am soooo excited as July marks year TWO for Broken To Beautiful!! I hope that this platform has been helpful to you all. I pray that God continues to grace me to provide blogs that promote growth and freedom. Thank you for supporting this mission! Now, let’s get to it!

Lately I have been questioning my theories on the term “The One.” I am sure you all have heard the term “There is someone for everyone.” But is there? I asked a few of my lovelies how they felt about it and I got some different views that surprised me! Some said yes, some said no, and some said yes with conditions. Here is how I feel about it.

I do believe that there is a one for some people. Marriage is a ministry, but it is not everyone’s ministry. God is a very creative God, so I know He is capable of putting people together for multiple purposes. I think back to the very beginning. A few months ago, I was reading Genesis in my Bible study at work and I was in my feelings about my singleness that particular day. I have read and heard Genesis 1 and 2 so many times, but I seemed to have a deeper appreciation of the artistry and strategic nature of God in that moment. The way He created and the timing of the creation proved that He is always thinking about us and our well being, even our relationships.

We got to Genesis 2:18 (NIV) where God said “It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” The word suitable stuck out for me. Suitable means “right or appropriate for a particular person, purpose, or situation.” When I saw this, I realized that while we all have desires for various people, God created us to be in relationship with those that are suitable. Everyone is not suitable. This goes for ALL relationships. Say it with me, “NO ENTANGLEMENTS IN THIS SEASON!!” This is why I feel that there is a one for some people, but we forget the suitability part sometimes because we follow our feelings instead of seeking God to see what or who would be suitable for us. God gave us all free will. He places people in our path, but it is ultimately up to us to make the decision. We use the term “following our heart” while God tells us our heart is deceitful. I know mine has led me to some people that I just knew were my person! I have prayed some holy prayers from the desires of my deceitful heart asking God “Just let me have that one!” Unless we fully embrace the mind of Christ for our lives, our minds can mislead us as well.

Let me challenge you. Think about widows. Losing their person is completely beyond their control. I don’t think it is God’s character to say “Well, that was your “one” you can’t have another!” What if we have blocked ourselves from experiencing suitability? For example, sometimes we make these declarations called inner vows. I used to have a BAD issue with names. I did not want a man with a name he needed to grow into, such as Arthur, Earl, Henry etc. No offense to those good, strong names. I just didn’t want them on MY wedding invitations! I was thinking a good Bryan, Marcus, or Jonathan. That’s petty, right? I have loosened up on that. But it’s the same if you say “I will never date a guy in ministry” or “I will never date a guy with children.” I thought about this and I was like I gotta break my foolish vows! What if God wants to send a youth pastor named Earl with two kids? He can be suitable, but I will still push him away because he doesn’t embody my preferences. What if someone just got it wrong? Does that just throw the whole world off? What if someone else has my person??!! If I find out I’m pulling up to get him! LOL

I have heard many stories of God divinely orchestrating relationships. However, I do believe He gets the glory out of everything He does. When He strategically puts people together for whatever purpose, something is produced from that relationship. He desires for us to be fruitful and multiply, and that does not just apply to having children. He doesn’t just put people together because they look cute together and will make pretty babies. Some of the most unlikely couples were put together by God to advance the kingdom. Every connection has a purpose. The late, great Myles Monroe said “If a purpose is not established, abuse is inevitable.” We must make sure that we understand why we are in relationship with others so that we can be effective in our roles.

A few years ago, I heard a question that provoked me to think and caused me to shift my perspective. The question was “Why do you want to get married or why do you want to be in a relationship?” I realized that most of my reasons were kinda vain. You know, vacations, family pictures, and let’s be honest, guilt free sex! I wondered “Why would God feel the need to bless me with “the one” when my reasons for wanting him would only make my heart sparkle and give Him no glory?” So I had to see what His true purpose was for marriage. My prayers for my future spouse began to shift from vain request to character and moral based prayers. God will give us the desire of our heart, but what He does is allows our desire to align with His as we delight ourselves in Him. The more we seek Him, the more we want what He wants for us. Maybe if we allow our desires to align with His, we will be directed in the right direction of one who is suitable.

Just so you know, there is no formula! There is no one that will meet our every need and want, if there was, we would probably make them our god. Sometimes people can become the best thing we never knew we needed. Your story of life is written by God, so it is all in His timing. God cannot be manipulated. If a person is truly suitable, they can become the one. I pray that we fully embrace the love of our first love. I pray that we shift our perspective to mirror the purpose that God has of the suitability of a relationship. I pray that we will follow God’s path towards preparation so that we may not just find someone suitable, but also be suitable. May we take on the mind of Christ as we make decisions about those we allow in our lives. Let us develop a true desire to have meaningful, kingdom connections that always bring glory to God. I love you all and thank you soooo much for your love and support over the past two years!!

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Hello sweet faces! We have arrived in June and I must say I am TIRED! 2020 has been a year FULL of issues, transitions, trials, and loss. I really had something nice and fluffy to talk about this month, but I would be remiss if I grazed past the current issues we are facing as a country. This country is hurting, but it is a totally different feeling when senseless things happen to people who look like you. Things that seem to happen repeatedly. I think I can safely say on behalf of us all, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

These situations are enough to make us experience a myriad of thoughts, feelings, and emotions. I had no idea it was sooo heavy on me until I talked about it with a friend. Afterwards, I just felt a release because I had finally verbalized my emotions. During this time, there have been things happening that I agree with, and some that I do not condone, but the root of it all is hurt, fear, and anger. I have friends and acquaintances of all backgrounds that I love. People of all cultures and creeds read this blog. I do not and will not put everyone in one bucket because of the issues at hand, however, we must be cognizant of the issues we face as a whole.

I have family, friends, and acquaintances who look like me that I love dearly. I am praying that they never encounter a situation like George Floyd, Botham Jean, Atatiana Jefferson, Breonna Taylor, Trevon Brown, or Ahmad Arbury. There have become too many victims to name. Each one opening up an old wound. Tragic situations that may not have escalated if their skin color was different. It is not just our brown men and boys that are targeted, they also target our brown girls and women. The security of one’s home does not even translate to our brown men, women, boys, and girls. Scary right? The negativity is real! I have read responses to these tragedies that show me that the hate runs deep. People are very quick to bring up the past mistakes of those victimized, but haven’t we all done something that we don’t actually want to be punished for? Jesus died for ALL of our sins, but we seem to have a lot of Jesus Juniors and Holy Spirit administrators around these days who feel that they have the right to judge that punishment of murder is legitimate in these situations. So how can we contribute?

We know that the initial response is prayer. Prayer can reach places that our hands and feet cannot. Prayer can move mountains and break chains. But, at some point we have to talk and pray about the real issue. Racism. Racism is a generational curse. Just like anger, lust, or illness. It usually starts generations back, and if that history is not properly addressed, it will repeat itself. One thing I have been in prayer about is that God would change the narrative of how people of other races see all black and brown people. You all know the stereotypes. The narratives that say we are a threat, the narratives that say we don’t measure up to a golden standard, the narratives that say we are suspicious. Just like any other race, there are some great individuals and some that need a little help! We are not any more of a threat or deserving of suspicion than our less pigmented brothers and sisters. We do measure up, we do matter, and we have so much to be proud of!

Each of us has a role to play in changing the narrative. There are conversations that must be spoken. We need to talk to our young people about the importance of knowing how to react when in a situation with those in law enforcement. We must teach them to respect authority, but also to respectfully take measures to protect themselves. This is nothing new. Now we just have technology to speak when our words aren’t heard. Have the hard conversations with family and friends on the importance of loving each other regardless of skin color. Help them to understand that you cannot judge by the color of one’s skin. 1 John 4:20 MSG says “If anyone boasts, “I love God,” and goes right on hating his brother or sister, thinking nothing of it, he is a liar. If he won’t love the person he can see, how can he love the God he can’t see?” The Bible says that person is a LIAR, I didn’t!! Check your hearts, y’all! Love and respect are key principles. Even with everything going on, I am proud of the melanin in this skin and I love my culture.

Bottom line is we have had enough, but we are ENOUGH! Our brown babies are ENOUGH! Now more than ever, we must put forth the effort to invest in them now so they won’t see days like this in the future. I do believe this was a turning point. The support is large, and there is true empathy. Don’t let it die! I pray that we are diligent in seeking God for our specific part in this battle. I pray that unity, peace, and love will bubble out of us like rivers of living water. That this water will soothe souls, heal wounds, and break generational curses. I thank you God, that the narrative will be changed. That when they see us, they will see us as Your children. Cover us and our families with your powerful blood. I pray for those in authority, government officials, and leaders, that their thoughts, actions, and beliefs will align with your word. The heart of the king is in Your hands, convict their hearts and minds and turn them towards You. Give us strength, restore our joy, and teach us how to love as You do. Amen, Amen, and Amen! I love you all! Please be safe and take care!

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Hey Y’all!! I pray you and your families are staying safe and healthy! I know that you all were looking at the title and wondering where this is going. 🤣 We are truly in a unique time where we are encouraged to wear a mask to protect ourselves from a virus. I encourage that as well! I was thinking that while I have been staying home more, my mask has been OFF!! Your girl is usually kinda put together. I like to be cute, for myself. If someone else is blessed as a byproduct, then amen! Lately, when I do actually have to be presentable, I look like I’m going to the prom! I have noticed though that I have been walking around in leggings more than ever, even found some that have not been worn before. I have not put on makeup most days. And here comes the big one. We sista friends right? I have had my hair off, y’all! Yes, I like wigs and they have not been on my head…a lot. Just me and these two braids! I just feel so free! Don’t you feel free when you can just “be?”

I began to think about how we wear masks to protect ourselves outside of the pandemic. We can hide behind our jobs, relationships, organizations/affiliations, and lifestyles. I was looking through some of the old blogs and I realized, I am VERY open in most of these blogs. I take my mask off here. You guys get to experience the girl behind the mask of titles, positions, clothes, jewelry, and hair. Sometimes I wonder what people think of me after a post, and I used to be filled with anxiety before each one. I sometimes feel like I give too much. This is my place to share with you so that you can have your own individual revelations and “me too” moments. But who are we really behind the many facades we wear? Have we taken our mask off to God? Listen, I thought I did, but I think I was mistaken!

I was listening to Pastor LaBryant Friend and he said “Most daughters don’t have the language to tell the Father where it hurts.” That hit me like a ton of bricks! Many of us don’t know how to articulate what hurts or trust that God will heal it once the wound is opened. After I listened, I began to pray and uncover some areas that I have not really opened up to God. I had real tears ladies because I thought I was being transparent, but it was just filtered through my protection of myself. It’s like, I want Him to heal it, but I don’t want Him to touch it. I was listening to someone a while back and they asked the question, “If we are busy protecting ourselves, what are we allowing God to do?” He tells us that He is our protector, He sent His son to show His love for us, and He sent an advocate in the Holy Spirit to lead and guide us. But we try to do all of His jobs!

When we uncover ourselves, not only do we give ourselves permission to be healed, but we can show someone else the way. Look, growth and healing are messy and don’t always look good. Just like I will not go out of my house with my two braids exposed, we don’t want anyone to see what we look like while we are on the way to our destination. I get it. In all things we must use wisdom, so we must be sure we open our wounds to those we trust. I have taken my mask off in front of others and had to quickly retrieve it because of their mismanagement. Everyone isn’t designed to nurse your wounds or handle the weight of your pain. But by us opening up, we may have someone near us that can help us to grow. Being covered keeps us from helping others and keeps us from being helped by someone else. You never know who has the tools to get your out of your struggle!

During this time, take your mask off, sis! Most of us are still quarantined in some form, so we can be free! We can’t hide anything from God anyway, He knows the amount of hairs on our heads! Show your Father where it hurts! It could be abandonment, fear, rejection, relationship issues, or character flaws. We first have to admit that the issue is there for Him to heal it. We can ask God to show us those areas that we need to hand over the reins. Ask for help to not only give it to Him, but for the fortitude to leave it there! Now we have to ask for the healing and participate as He leads us in victory.

I pray that we uncover the mask that we have hidden behind for so long. I pray that we seek God on what the hidden issues are and ask Him to heal us with His healing balm. That we are free to identify them as a conduit to freedom, not a cave of condemnation. I thank God that we will walk in freedom, authority, and true authenticity. Embracing our evolution today and in the days to come. Love you all and I am continuously praying for the safety of you and your families. Toodles!!

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Good day my loves! So much has happened since we last caught up! March was rather interesting. I pray you all are safe and doing well during this time of isolation and quarantine. I am very much an introvert, so I enjoy alone time, but this is a lot! I am not really one to give out lots of hugs, but I actually wanted to hug a person and could not! I was just starting to break out of my shell a little and now I have to pause. I started co-facilitating a Bible study at my job, I went to a salsa dancing class and it was a very exhilarating moment for me(You guys should TOTALLY try it!), I went to some events and was just generally trying to be social and now we have to be socially distant! For those who love to interact, I can only imagine the struggle. While we have no idea how long this may last, we are in a perfect position to do things we have put off, work on developing ourselves as well as our relationships, and learn and grow in many areas as the Internet and books have given us that power. But how will life be different for us and those around us when we can finally come out? Let’s talk about someone that was isolated and had to make moves once he was released. Bible study time!!!

So, the character in the Bible I want to talk about is usually just talked about in Children’s Church. I was thinking about who I could use that was in isolation, like us, and I thought about Jonah. Everyone knows that Jonah was the guy that was swallowed by a giant fish. Jonah has a whole book to himself in the Bible for you to go reference. I’m gonna give you a brief synopsis to paint my picture. God spoke to Jonah saying “Get up and go to Nineveh to announce my judgement because of their wickedness.” Jonah was like “I’m ’bout to go somewhere, but not there!” Jonah got up and paid for a ticket to go to a place called Tarshish via boat. According to some articles I read, Tarshish was a mighty long way from Nineveh! Jonah boarded the boat headed far away from his assignment and suddenly God hurled a powerful storm in the seas.

The men on the boat started throwing off cargo to make it easier to manage with no luck. Jonah was at the bottom of the boat asleep! They knew something was up with that and told him he needed to pray to his God! He admitted that he was probably the reason for this storm and told them to throw him over. They didn’t want to, but immediately after they did, the seas were calmed. The men were in awe and they came to serve God. Even in our disobedience, we can still draw others to the Father! Well, when Jonah was thrown over, God arranged for a giant fish to swallow him. He was inside of a fish for 3 days and 3 nights. I wonder what he did with that time of isolation? The Bible says he prayed a prayer of thanksgiving and the Lord ordered the fish to spit him out on land, but did it take him that long to pray?

Once he was released, God asked Jonah to do the same thing again. This proves that there are some things that only you or I can do! People that only we can reach. I’m sure he could have gotten someone else without resistance, but this was a job for Jonah. Did I mention he was a whole Prophet? He finally went to Nineveh and all he said was “In 40 days from now, the town of Nineveh will be destroyed.” They immediately responded with fasting and surrender. That seemed insignificant, but it came from the person that was mandated to carry that message. God saw their response and changed His mind about the destruction. Jonah was BIG mad! He did not like the people from Nineveh and did not want them to be saved. To the point that he wanted to die because God saved them! He knew that when he delivered that message the loving-kindness of God would have mercy on them if they responded by making corrections to their way of life. He was selfish with his salvation and the mercy God gave him. Aren’t we like that sometimes?

God gave him an illustration of a plant that gave him shelter and allowed a worm to eat the stem for it to die. He was concerned about the plant that he did not produce and was not concerned about 120,000 people and animals that simply did not know any better. We are in a time of isolation and there are soooo many people out there that simply don’t know the “right” way. The church as a whole is doing an excellent job in showing the love of God right now with the help of technology, but this is a desperate time and when you are desperate, you will grasp anything. But, what about when we are out of isolation? How will we keep them involved? How will we make sure that they have a community of people to lead them in the right direction? Will we be able to rehabilitate those that were already weak in faith before they were taken away from the accountability of their church? Maybe this separation from our assemblies was to show us how to serve more than just those that go to church with us. We don’t have to save the world individually, but there are those we are assigned to impact in different capacities. Jonah did what he needed to do and it produced good fruit, but he had a massive attitude towards those he was called to lead to deliverance!

We do that as well, or maybe it’s just me that can identify some areas I can do better. It could be because we don’t feel like we will be received well, we may feel inadequate because of our past, we may feel like we are just a regular church member, or we just ignore the call on our lives because it cost too much. During this time, we don’t really have an excuse. We have no distractions, no social gatherings, we have probably watched everything on Netflix and Hulu, and we have nowhere to go but the grocery stores. We should come out better, in some capacity, than we were when we went in quarantine. We have an opportunity to grow and mature so that we can be better for ourselves and those around us. So, what are you gonna do when you get out of the belly of your home? Who’s deliverance is in the words you have been chosen to say? Just something to ponder during this #Alonetogether time!

I pray that during this time God gives us a hunger and thirst for Him. I pray that we have a passion like never before to grow and to advance the kingdom. I pray that we are discovering gifts, talents, and skills that we can use to help others. We will continue to trust that God is with us in this time of isolation and ask Him what He wants us to receive personally from this time. I thank Him for wisdom, strategy, and direction of what we need to do once released into our new norm. All things work together for the good of those who love Him, so there has to be glory after this. I pray that you and your families will continue to be well, safe, and healthy! While you are praying, please continue to pray for your communities and our world that God will heal our land as we humble ourselves and cry out to Him. Love you all to pieces!!

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